Meet Tricia Thompson. As a former special education teacher and a current IRIS consultant, Tricia full-heartedly believes in self-determination and the power of making ones own choices. She strives to encourage people to make their own decisions and to take chances in life. Shes an extremely positive person and we are so fortunate to have her on the Self-Determination Network. Learn more about Tricia in this months Member Spotlight.

How are you involved with self-directed supports and self-determination? Why did you join the SDNetwork?'

I joined the SD network after learning about a "Coffee Break" that involved a discussion regarding the recent proposed state budget and thelong term care proposed changes. As with everything in life, I have found I learn a lot from the questions and concerns other people have. Currently, I work as a long term care consultant with IRIS. Believing in self-determination is in my blood. As the eldest of nine children I quickly learned that I had to take charge of my own life. I grew up making my own choices. Sometimes these choices resulted in growth and sometimes.......well.......I learned from mymistakes. I never appreciated the value of being able to succeed and fail from my own choices until I started working as a special education teacher in the central city of Milwaukee. The families I worked with who felt like they were a part of the decision making regarding their children, were also the families who took more ownership of their responsibility to those decisions. They felt like their opinion was whatmattered and would not allow anyone else or a system determine what they felt was right for their child with a disability. In effect, their ability to embrace self-determination in their own life also helped their own children grow up with the same beliefs. It was a pattern of decision makingthat was created basedon empowerment and not hopelessness. I strongly believe that self-determination is within all of us and can be temporarilysilenced or empowered. As a consultant, I strive to encourage individuals to make their own decisions about their own life in a way they feel they can and want to. I also speak about the importance of taking chances and that it's ok if they try something and fail. It's what makes us human.

Tell us some good news - what's the most exciting thing happening for you (or in Wisconsin) in terms self-determination or Self-Directed Supports?

Good News.....ah yes.....how I love to think about good news these days more than ever. Many of the people I have been working with have been with me the entire four years I have worked as a consultant. The amount of time we have worked together is significant because we have built a very trusting relationship. They trust I have their best interest at heart and know I will follow through with what I say I am going to. For some, this is the first experience they have had with a "system" of supports that has resulted in positive outcomes and experience with a "case manager." So, even when there are multiple changes happening all at once, they are able to trust that I willcontinueto do the best I can for them given the unique circumstances.

What tip or resource would you like to share with people who want to direct their own supports, or who would want to be more self-determined?

The best tip or resource I can offer to those who want to self-direct their resources, is to make a connection with one of the many great advocacy groups, such as the Board for People with Developmental Disabilities (BPDD). With the explosion of group specific Facebook pages, it is possible for anyone to reach out to someone anywhere in the world. These pages offer the opportunity tolearn from each other and share resources as well as provide support and direction on every issue imaginable.

What message would you like to share with themembersof the SDNetwork?

Four years ago I started working in my current role. Five monthsafter I started running, I signed up for my first 5K and then my second race one month later was a 10K. When it comes down to it, I despise running. Truly. What I love is the feeling of success afterwards and the stress relief that follows. Running has become my coping method for dealing with the stress in my life. Some days there isn't enough road for me to cover while other days a quick two mile run is enough to help me refocus. My point with all of this is that self-care is not just about taking a class on how to care for yourself. Self-care shouldmeanacceptingthat I have to define for myself what I need most and to hold myself accountable to doing something for me. Some days I am motivated and some days I want to just curl up on the couch and pretend reality doesn't exist. Some days I am only able to find the time to breath in and out five deep breaths in silence before reality comes screaming. Some days though I run until my legs won't go any further. When there is so much in life these days that I have no control over and changes happen no matter what I think or believe, it is important that I always remember I have the choice to breath in and out slowly for five breathsor go for a run.

What's your dream vacation?

My dream vacation has already happened. In 2010, I was chosen to accompany Oprah and 300friends to Australia for a 10 day all-expense paid trip. While there I stayed in five start resorts, was treated like royalty and ate food I couldn't pronounce. Prior to that trip I had never been out of the country. My only vacation as a child was when our family was moving from one state to another.I don't know honestly how I can top that trip because it was so completely unrealistic in every imaginable way possible. I guess what I will say is that the vacations I take with my family are very special to me because I am able to show my children and the brother I adopted a world I wish I could have experienced when I was a child. Our vacations together are fun and help us remember what really is important in this life. I need to mention, though, that I am not and will never be a fan of camping or long car rides and I am pretty sure my family wanted to leave me on the side of the road when we all went to Yellowstone several years ago.

***We love hearing the views and opinions of Network members. We need to mention that the views and opinions expressed on this site are those of the person who is sharing them. They do not necessarily reflect InControl Wisconsin or any of our supporters and funders.